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How To Use Sex Toys To Blow BOTH Of Your Minds: From Rabbits To Ben Wa Balls

Vivian KELLY
by Vivian KELLY Published on 6 January 2017
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If you’re looking to spice up your sex life whilst leave your man begging for more, a new toy could be an absolute game changer. But if you're curious about how to use sex toys, relax, 'cos we're here to tell you what types are available and how to make the most of your kinky fun. Here’s ALL you need to know before introducing some toys into the bedroom!

Want to enhance your sex life with sex toys but not sure where to start? Trust us, we’ve all been there.

​Which is why we tapped into Sexpert and founder of Jo Divine, Samantha Evans and UK Account Manager for LELO Ronja Moln to give us the low down on all things play time.

If you're new to sex toys, it’s a good idea to start using one alone before introducing it to your boyfriend. This will give you time to get comfortable with how to use it and make you more likely to relax and let your inhibitions loose when it's time to get frisky.

Keen to find out what's out there and which toy is right for you? Ladies, listen up.

1. Rabbit

If you’re looking for something new and effective, buy yourself a classic rabbit-style vibrator. The dual action of the stimulation of your clit and vaginal penetration is sure to send you to orgasm heaven.

Ronja says: “Our most luxurious rabbit-style vibrator, SORAYA, has two motors in a flowing, body-contoured design and promises to offer intense orgasms, every time. It’s also waterproof, so perfect for the bath, too."

Use this toy as a massager against your most sensitive bits, use the ultra-flexible nub for a clitoral quickie or on him moving and teasing the toy up and down his shaft and around his testicles. His blood will be rushing right down.

2. Ben Wa Balls

Channel your “Inner Goddess” and make love like Ana and Christian. Wearing heavy metal balls is A LOT sexier than you think. In fact, it gives you a good pelvic floor work out too, so don't go dismissing this one just yet girls.

“In the bedroom or out, the LUNA Beads Noir offers an elegant twist on kegel balls. While they can be used strictly for strengthening your PC muscles, they also offer exciting and discreet sensations as the inner weights swirl with your movements,” says Ronja. Anastasia-style pleasure at it’s best - what're you waiting for?

3. Oral Sex Vibrator

This one’s not your everyday vibrator but if clitoral stimulation is your thing then this is the one you NEED to try.

Ronja says: “Who doesn’t love getting oral? Our response was ORA 2. With stronger movements and a larger ‘tongue', that swirls and vibrates, it offers you award-winning oral whether during solo play or with a partner.”

There’s nothing hotter for a man than watching his partner pleasure herself. Make your man go wild by using this on yourself. Besides he'll need a break at some point, right?

4. Blindfold

Using a blindfold in the bedroom is super sexy. Wrap the blindfold around your partner's head and have your way with him until he's begging you for more.

Use a blindfold while trying new sexy positions or if you’re comfortable with it, let him take the reins. The feeling of losing yourself and just focusing on the sensations is sure to take you over the edge.

“Adding a blindfold to the bedroom gives a sensual touch of mystery, and the INTIMA Silk Blindfold just happens to be the most luxurious. Whichever partner wears it will find their other senses heightened, as well as their anticipation for the next touch," says Ronja. A great toy for all the thrill seekers out there.

5. Massage Candles

Setting the mood and offering him a sensual massage is a sure-fire way to get things heated (and a great way to take things slow too). No girl likes rushing foreplay!

Ronja says: “The Flickering Touch Massage Candles are an amazing addition to any bedroom. Made from all natural soy wax, shea butter and apricot kernel oil, they melt into oil that’s not too hot, and will leave skin feel amazing as well.”

Burn a skin smoothing candle and blow it out. Leave it for a few minutes and pour the wax over each others body followed by a massage. It never lets you down but always make sure the candles you buy are skin friendly and intended for massage.

6. Massager

The great thing about massagers is that it can pleasure you in TWO ways. One by soothing your sore muscles and relaxing you at an end of a long day and two by stimulating and pleasing those hotspots.

"Massage wands are an iconic style of vibrator that gives instant relaxation wherever you use it. They can go from a slow rumble to intense sensation and ours offer a nice update with a cordless and waterproof design so you can enjoy a massage anywhere," says Ronja.

That's right, EVEN in the shower! So next time your beau comes home from work, offer him a well-earned massage. The rest will be sextory...

7. Couple's toy

Ladies, sex toys have come a LONG way. Now no matter what the distance, you and your partner can be pleased even when you're miles apart!

Samantha says: "The WeVibe 4 Plus vibrator can be controlled either with an app or a remote. Couples can connect in new, exciting ways, whether in the same room or different continent. This toy is designed to be worn by women either during intercourse or as part of couple's play using the modern app feature."

This C-shaped vibrator fits around your pubis leaving you plenty of room for penetration. So if you and you're partner love coming together, this one's a must try.

8. Glass dildo

Temperature play can add a whole new experience to your sex life. These beautiful toys are guaranteed to make bath time interesting, plus they're super easy to clean and no charge or batteries required.

"Ideal for G-spot stimulation, Icicles will take your sexual pleasure to the next level." says Samantha.

"Glass Icicles are completely nontoxic and non porous, making them easy to clean and skin safe. What's more, all lubricant types are safe to use with glass, allowing you to enjoy amazing, sensual, slippery pleasure!"

Feel incredible sensations by warming up your glass toy in warm water or if you prefer, keep it chilled by cooling it in the fridge for 30 minutes or splash it with some cold water.

9. Plugs

If you're already quite adventurous in the bedroom and want to try something, er, well anal, then a butt plug is definitely the thing for you.

Samantha says: "Being so smooth and compatible with all lubricants, glass makes a wonderful material for anal play so the luxury glass anal plug with a leather whip attached to the end is ideal for exploring your inner dominatrix. Whichever way you use it, this plug, fashioned from clear glass, is designed to create an intense sensation of being filled."

But remember, it's important to start with something small like the Tailed Plug/ Whip especially when you're just starting out. Lube it up with some water-based lubricant to ensure an easy entrance. The more advanced you get, the more ribbed and larger ones you can try out!

10 . Feather Tickler

There's nothing sexier than getting your other half to stimulate your senses without actually touching you. The sensations you feel when stroking a feather tickler over each others' body are gentle yet so amazingly tantalising.

Samantha says: "Our feather tickler from Sex and Mischief is superb for teasing your partner with tickles and introducing added tingles to your playtime. A perfect addition to dress up and role play, the tickler is one accessory you won't want to miss out on. It's compact size means it is perfect for taking on your holiday to enjoy lighter bondage play."

To use, brush the feather tickler against your partner's body, moving it slowly and gently from their feet to their inner thighs. Don't be afraid to add a few additions like a blindfold or restraint, the orgasm will be worth the wait.

Do you have a favourite type of sex toy? Tweet us @sofeminineUK!

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by Vivian KELLY