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10 Fifty Shades of Grey-inspired Ways To Kink Up Your Sex Life

by Vivian KELLY Published on 9 February 2015

The pleasure-pain dynamic of Christian Grey drives men and women CRAZY. And after reading and watching the latest 50's trailer what better way to celebrate than unleashing your very own 'inner goddess'? Ladies, time to get the ropes, whips and blindfolds out, here are 10 Fifty Shades of Grey inspired ways to kink up your sex life, stat...

1. Talk dirty to him

We know this is easier said than done. But once you begin having naughty conversations, your sex life will never be the same. How about starting with a cheeky text message while you’re both at work? Saying something as tame as ‘I want you now’ or ‘I’m so hot for you’ will get anyone with a frisky imagination super excited. What's better, why not meet for a sexy lunchtime sesh too? The spontaneity will kill him.

2. Use a massager

Tune out from the world and get your kink on by doing something different! Hot wax aside, you can still be super sensual by giving each other massages to help relax and unwind. LELO’s Smart Wand Large is the perfect addition to heat up any steamy sesh. The cordless charger features SenseTouch which builds vibrations on contact with the skin for the hottest full body massage anytime, anywhere.

3. Book in a naughty night of passion

Check in at the K West Hotel & Spa for their Fifty Shades inspired V-Day packaged of Christian Grey’s Red Room. When you arrive you’ll find red silk bed sheets, red candles, red roses, a sexy porn film and the best part? ‘F boxes’, filled with all sorts of kinky fun toys to get you hot, bothered and ready to go. For more info and to enjoy it yourself, book here.

And to really get into Fifty Shades mode make sure you don't forget to pack a pair of jingle balls with you too. Founder of Frolic Me, an erotic site for women and couples, Anna Richards, gave us some of her hot sex tips to enjoy maximum Christian Grey pleasure.

She says, "In Fifty Shades, Ana often refers to 'Ben Wa balls', or sometimes know as 'jiggle balls', that wiggle to stimulate pleasure points during wear. They also help with toning pelvic floor muscles so can even have an added benefit!" But don't forget to let your man know how good it feels wearing them. The thought of you being aroused while you're out and about (and not being able to do much about it) will bring him to boiling point.

4. Use blindfolds

Anna says, "By removing your vision, you heighten your other senses, which both fuels the imagination and adds to the intensity of the moment. Have your partner prepare with some simple items to tease and stroke you with."

With this Sex & Mischief Intro to S&M Kit you get a small flogger, furry handcuffs and a cheeky blindfold. So instead of letting your ‘Christian’ do all the work why not handcuff your man to a chair, blindfold him and tease, tickle and smack him around. The hot suspense will have him revved up and ready to please you (if he’s good enough to get out that is).

"For those looking for extra sensory experiences, try a Spiked Wartenberg Pinwheel which is a perfect introduction to sensory experimentation", says Anna.

5. Let him tie you up

A sexy session with ties or cuffs is nothing short of kinky! Anna says, "The feeling of being restrained causes more awareness of your body as a sexual object for intense pleasure and focus. Just simply restraining your hands where you feel unable to do what you might naturally wish to can readjust your focus.

"​Your man will love to see you bound to a chair ready for his hands to control, explore and arouse. Handcuffs certainly look more kinky but simple silk ties are soft and versatile, or a man’s tie works equally as well.
Girls, don’t forget the men too, tying their legs to a chair before performing your foreplay can drive them to distraction, while allowing you to have freedom for fabulous oral play to kiss, lick, stroke and devour all parts of their body without their involvement."​

This silky soft rope is great for anything. Let your man rope you around your chest, stomach and ankles and let him have his way with you. Watching you become totally submissive will make him want you even more. Here's how to do the move yourself.

6. Watch a steamy porn film

It may not seem like the most ideal thing to do at first, but trust us, a few minutes into watching some and you and your partner will be taking your intimacy to a whole new level.

Anna says, "Remember to stimulate the mind, it's incredibly powerful and the largest sexual organ we have". Watch one of her erotic films such as Escort At Home or Sky View for some naughty inspiration. Steal ideas and act out the scene with their sexy moves and positions! The sheer excitement and spontaneity with have you both ravenous with desire. Give it a try and see how quickly things start heating up.

7. Get a personal pleasure trainer

OK, not that kind of personal pleasure trainer. With LELO Luna Smart Bead’s touch sensors it can measure your orgasm potential responding to your every move and squeeze, making sure you get the maximum pleasure possible. Use this by tying up your partner to the bed post and straddling him while you pleasure yourself. Watching you orgasm while he has no control whatsoever is sure to Blow. His. Mind.

8. Surprise him

Getting kinky doesn’t always mean you have to buy the right supplies."Our skin reacts as a sex organ too and will respond to heat and cold. Simple items such as rubbing ice cubes over parts of the body (such as your breasts or his chest) will be deeply arousing. Put an ice cube in your mouth before oral sex and your partner will experience the chill and amazing sensations all over ," says Anna.

You can even use a makeshift toy like a rubber spatula, a silky scarf or even some whip cream. Be creative with how you use them and don’t be shy. ​The hottest thing about BDSM is the confidence that comes with it. Lick off some whip cream or chocolate sauce from his man bits or get him to tie you up and use the spatula on you in a naughty way.

9. Use a feather teaser

Kinked up sex doesn’t always have to involve spanking so why not go for something softer like a feather tickler? A luxury teaser like LELO’S Tantra Feather Teaser Tickler will send you and him over the edge. Use it to lightly caress each other's body starting from the bottom up and working yourself up and right back down again. Remember to take your time as you feel the heighten sensations all over your body. You might be surprised how something so simple can make for some truly sheet-grabbing sex.

10. Release your ‘Inner Goddess’

Go on a hot date with your man - only this time, plan to meet for the first time - introduce yourself as your kinky, sexier persona. Act innocent but make it clear that you want him.

There's no time to be wasted! Anna says, "Christian had no fear in taking the fun into the car. Plan your location and park up to create an element of surprise (keep it secret). There's always that added factor of being seen, adding a hot, exhibitionist element to your fun."

​Play hard to get but wear something revealing such as, a sheer top or a mini skirt and see if you can last long enough to make it to the bedroom. If not don’t worry, public sex will be even hotter.

Here's everything you need to kink it up...

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