The chemistry just isn’t there, and chemistry is NOT something you can fake, so there's only one thing to do: break it off. Stop dodging all the Facebook messages, iMessenger, Snapchats and Whatsapp and start letting your SO down gently, before someone really gets hurt.
Keep It Cordial, Keep It Cute.
Be polite, not being interested doesn’t warrant being rude. He might not be your type, he might make you cringe a little or a lot, but play nice. Treat him how you would want to be treated.
Honesty Is The Best Policy.
A little white lie may seem like an appealing option, but don’t do it. Being honest and being truthful doesn’t make you an A-hole. If you are not feeling him, them say it, don't pretend that you're not ready for a relationship right now, when really, you're just not (ever going to be) ready for a relationship with him.
‘It’s not me, it’s you’, We’re just on two different paths right now’, ‘I just don’t feel the spark’. Say it all now, and get it out of your system, you will not be needing these any more. This is a no cliché zone. Choose your words carefully, even if the cliché rings true, it makes you look a bit of a d*ck.
It’s Not You, It's Me
Speaking of clichés here is one you should never say, but practice. No one wants a list of their faults. He doesn’t need to know he is badly dressed, has bad breath and is the worst sex of your life. So make it your issue not theirs. Spare a little thought for them, its bad enough being dumped. No need to point fingers.
Stick To Your Guns
Master the art of saying no, and stick to it. No matter how persistant or how emotional they get, no means no. Or else you realise months down the line that you are in love with them, then you can change your mind. Woman's prerogative.
Don’t Be A Coward
It takes a real shitty person to call it off with someone by text. Grab your cojones and do it face to face. Although they are exceptions to this. If it’s still very casual and only been a date or two, then text away, we won’t judge you.
Never Sell A Dream
Don’t give false hope. Once you know that there’s no chance in hell you would ever date him, never lead him to believe otherwise. So none of this , ‘ maybe we will see’, it’s just not fair. So be a big girl about it, and let him know that there’s no chance. Not now, not ever, while still being polite of course.
Keep It Short And Sweet
It's never going to be sweet, but don’t drag it out, just rip that plaster off. Once you have said what you need to say, thank them for understanding and wrap it up. You don’t need to hang around to see it get ugly.
That’s only if you actually want to be friends. Don’t do it as some sort of consolation prize. Sometimes it doesn’t work romantically, but you can really hit it off as friends. Old flames can be good friends, right? Or was that Neighbours?
Keep It Moving
Don’t dwell on it. What’s done is done. Learn from the failure and carry on dating. It’s fun, or so I've heard.
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This article was written by Tolani Shoneye.Follow her on @tolly_t